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Francene--Blog. Year 2014

Have there always been bad parents?

9/29/2014

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In in Moorpark, southern California, on Friday, police stopped a vehicle and found a five-year-old US boy, sitting on the back seat with half a pound of cocaine. After his parents were arrested on a drug charge, he was tested positive for cocaine although he didn't need medical attention.

Authorities reported finding hundreds of prescription-drug pills, several pounds of marijuana and $75,000 in cash at the couple's home as well as ammunition and guns.

The parents are accused of conspiracy to sell cocaine, possession of cocaine for sale, and child endangerment.

I'd say the last offense is the worst. What were they thinking? They obviously didn't care about their child. They sound like irresponsible parents who put themselves first, risk their child's well-being and fail to set a proper example.

In another recent incident early on Sunday in Miami, Florida, five girls between 11 and 17 years are among more than a dozen people who suffered gunshot wounds in a US nightclub shooting.

What were these kids doing out at one o'clock in the morning in a club? How could responsible parents allow this behavior?

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According to the U.S. National Library of Medicine, steering away from certain basic principles makes a bad parent. These guide-lines consist of keeping your child healthy, raising them with plenty of affection and consistency, supporting communication, setting reasonable limits and leading by example.

A leading clinical and developmental psychologist has separated parenting styles into categories.


Authoritarian parents are the controlling, overly strict and unresponsive parents,

The permissive parents allow their child to do as they please, demanding little.

Authoritative parents are those who are firm, but at the same time warm. They tend to provide their children with options and opportunities, and give them the warmth and emotional stability they need, but they also set clear limits and teach them how to obey rules.

Last, uninvolved parents are the irresponsible and neglectful, who demand nothing because they don't care about their children.

I'm wondering if there have always been bad parents or if our modern indulgences in present-day society have brought out the worst in people.


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I come under the authoritative parent heading. My children were my first priority and I devoted my time and attention to raising them to achieve their highest potential whilst showing them bad behavior wasn't accepted. I took them on excursions, led them in exercises, accompanied them to swimming lessons on the beach, taught them to respect others and care for the environment, nurtured their creative abilities.

Sigh! All to no avail. My son could have come under the category of uninvolved before he died. One of my daughters deliberately rebelled against my style of parenting by raising her daughter in a permissive way. Despite that, my granddaughter is a good, responsible person, thank the Lord.

At least I know I did my best.

How about you? Which category do you fall under?




5 Comments
Sharon Powell link
9/28/2014 07:02:22 pm

oh goodness those stories are awful! The quote at the top of your post is very very true!
I am just doing my best for my children x

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Sharon Martin link
9/28/2014 07:33:23 pm

It's a real eye opener when you read stories like that, it is hard being a parent but most of us try to do our very best, I think I would come under 'authoritative parent '.

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Joan Harrington link
9/29/2014 01:58:23 am

Hi Francene,

Enjoyed your post and definately resonated with it, thank you for sharing :)

I raised 2 kids and I think I was a little authoritative but warm and loving as well :)

Both of my kids are grown and happy well-adjusted so I guess I did something right :)

Happy Monday to you my friend!

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Siphosith link
9/29/2014 03:32:45 am

The stories you talk about bring chills to the bone. I think the modern society has brought out the worst of parenting. More so that all parents go to work or look for money in one way or another and many a times children are alone or with a hired person who will not instill what we ought to do as parents.

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Donna Ward link
9/29/2014 03:35:23 am

Too many sad stories that keep growing - I am all familiar with having bad parents - and then being blessed in life in spite of - My prayers go out daily for these little ones - you writing about it is very brave

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