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Francene--Blog. Year 2014

A shocking reminder to watch elders.

6/27/2014

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A woman in Dorset, UK has laid undiscovered in her flat for six years after she died.

A bailiff, estate agent and two locksmiths broke into the ground floor flat on Tuesday and found the remains.

Dorset Police said the body was believed to be that of a woman in her seventies. They are not treating the death as suspicious.

When questioned, a neighbor was horrified and wondered why nobody had noticed. He thought she'd moved out because the car wasn't there.

Another neighbor admitted she hadn't stopped shaking for two days. She felt guilty about not making some effort to contact her or report her absence.

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A member of the Contact the Elderly charity, which supports older people through loneliness and isolation, said the length of time made this case extreme.

"It's a shame this happens. It's quite common for older people to be living somewhere and for people not to see them.

"Bringing some kind of social interaction, however small, into their lives really makes a difference."


So many people live alone as they age. Mostly, their family lives far away. This is the case for me. My daughter lives in Australia, the other side of the globe from my home in England.

Even if parents live in the same country, they are often long distances away, which makes it difficult to ensure they are eating right and living well.

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Perhaps neighbors are the best people to remain observant. Contact people living close to you whenever you can. They may be lonely and your kindness could be the very thing they need.

Now we're both in our 70s, I dread to think what will happen to me if my husband dies first. He is my carer. I don't walk well and I am always aware I could fall whenever I'm outside. I've mentioned many times that I take a daily walk with a firm grip on the handles of my rollator. I meet fellow walkers, and the constant challenge of struggling up the steep hill keeps me alert. I love to feel the wind on my face, birds chirping, and the swish of the trees. 

In the end, society works by adhering to the message, 'Love they neighbor'.


8 Comments
Jess
6/26/2014 07:45:42 pm

This is heartbreaking to think that this would go un-noticed. I always keep an eye out on elderly neighbours and check their lights and garden gates etc and if I haven't seen them for a few days I'll pop in and check they're okay :)

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Kimberley link
6/26/2014 08:20:44 pm

It really scares me how elderly people are so vulnerable. It's really good to raise awareness.

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Bill Bartlett
6/26/2014 09:15:56 pm

This is very sad. I wonder if this is a product of a culture that venerates youth rather than age? When convenience is valued over life? One of our earliest lessons is that appearance doesn't matter, that how we act is more important that how we look. And yet, we're bombarded with images of youth. It's as if tight skin, rippling muscles and all the trappings of a photogenic exterior are more important than seventy years of difficult lessons, tragedy and joy. There are rare times when the elderly are depicted in our culture. But it's when they have managed to keep from looking elderly. Sophia Lauren and Raquel Welch come to mind. I had hoped the Boomers would exert their customary influence and begin not just a social acceptance of aging, but they would embrace it with the fervor they embraced the cause of social justice. Just like the recreational use of drugs, this seems to be another failure of my generation. The Who said it in Talking 'Bout My Generation: 'Hope I die before I get old.' They didn't die and now they are old. And the only ones who listen are other elderly, shoved to the margins of society.

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Amaia - You Made My Day link
6/26/2014 09:32:25 pm

It is true that most of elders live most of the time alone, like "waiting for a visit". One of my best souvenirs is when I spent time with my grand parents, not only in the 'weekly visit', but having them on vacation with us, sharing my room snorer grandma (who always said she never snored...), fun times to pass onto our children

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Sophie Bowns link
6/26/2014 11:06:10 pm

Oh gosh! This post made me so sad, what a horrible thought. It breaks my heart to think of elderly people living or dying alone. It's so important to keep in contact with our loved ones and to hold them close to us.

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Sharyn link
6/27/2014 01:38:35 am

One of my biggest fears as we grow older!

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Crystal link
6/27/2014 08:00:56 am

This is a sad reality in our society. Thank you for the reminder that we may need to step outside of ourselves once and a while to bring some light into another's day, especially those who are lonely.

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Marjie Walenta link
6/27/2014 11:59:18 am

Such a tragic end for that poor woman, to die alone and have nobody to honor her life or recognize her passing. I am grateful that my parents, who are in their 70's, live close by. I visit them almost every day. They also live in tight-knit community of seniors that watch over each other, which is nice. But when Hillary Clinton exclaimed "it takes a village", she should have included not just children, but also the elderly, the infirm and the disabled. We should all look out for one another!

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