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What drives someone to suicide?

2/5/2014

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A castaway who says he spent 13 months lost in the Pacific Marshall Islands thought about killing himself twice, despairing from "hunger and thirst". In an interview to CNN Mexico, the man said fear was what stopped him from suicide, but he also kept faith that he would get out of the situation.

The Salvadoran man left Mexico with a friend for a trip in a fiber-glass boat in December 2012. After his friend died, the fisherman's boat supposedly floated onto a reef at the small, isolated island. He claims to have survived the 8,000 km (5,000-mile) ordeal by catching fish, birds and turtles with his bare hands.

This reminds me of Robinson Crusoe, a novel by Daniel Defoe, first published on 25 April 1719. It hardly seems possible that one man could survive alone.  But what circumstances would make a person take their own life?

Yesterday, the BBC News reported that a woman fell to her death from the top of a building. Did she slip? Was she pushed? No, she killed herself.

The woman had despaired of anyone believing her about being raped. She'd joined the services with high hopes, but she claimed a fellow officer raped her. When she reported it to her superiors, they didn't believe her. Then, the accused man's girlfriend rang her and shouted abuse. Perhaps her co-workers joined the conspiracy against her and she felt ostracized. She'd done no wrong. Why had the situation turned against the victim? Unfortunately, the distraught woman killed herself. A court case will look into the facts.


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But how can a woman prove rape afterwards? Perhaps they should grit their teeth and report to the closest hospital while her aggressor's DNA is fresh. Once that is lost, her only resource is to accuse her tormentor or forget about the trauma. Some people can't. A young girl in my novel, Tidal Surge, confronts this issue and gets over it. However, many youngsters take their own life nowadays, unable to take the pressures of existence any longer.

In the English courts, television personalities have been found guilty of acts against youngsters after thirty years. I find these crimes shocking. Nuances in society prevented the minors speaking out at the time. All proof has been lost. The only way the victims could let the world know what happened to them was to band together as adults, thereby forcing the perpetrator to confess. All their lives are changed because of the men's violence.

At the moment, another case is being publicized. The television star insists he is innocent. I'd like to believe what he says is true because he stands behind his gentle beliefs in the workings of spirituality. I must confess to being shocked and almost condemning him when I heard about the accusations.

Sex, violence and suicide bring all these topics together. Suicide is a terrible thing. Those who are driven to take their own lives must believe all hope is lost.


9 Comments
Nick link
2/4/2014 09:30:18 pm

My friend killed himself a few years. I think you are born with something.

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Francene Stanley
2/4/2014 10:10:57 pm

Maybe some people are born with a sense of inadequacy, but not all of them kill themselves. So sad.

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Lisa link
2/4/2014 09:38:09 pm

What a sad - but thought provoking - story. What can we do to make it easier for the victims?

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Francene Stanley
2/4/2014 10:11:58 pm

I guess the thing we can do is remain nonjudgmental towards those who approach us.

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Amy link
2/4/2014 10:01:27 pm

It's so sad to me that anybody could reach this level of despair, especially a young person with their entire life ahead of them.

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Francene Stanley
2/4/2014 10:12:54 pm

So true, Amy.

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Alana link
2/4/2014 10:33:28 pm

There have been a couple of suicides in my spouse's family. One, a man with a disabled son, despondent over a dread illness diagnosis he (the father) had received. The other, a man who had fought depression for a lot of his life. It is such a sad situation, especially for the surviving family members - they never seem to get the same support as if the member had died from a "natural" cause. I wanted also to mention something about bridges - I have always wondered why so many people in this condition seem to want to jump off a bridge. There is a bridge over a major river that we pass over when visiting my mother in law. On the approach the authorities have now posted a sign "There is always hope...." and a toll free number to call. I wonder how many people make that call.

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Sophie Bowns link
2/4/2014 10:59:48 pm

It's so sad :(
My Grannie's brother and sister both died this way. Tragic! :(
It's such a sad situation & also in some respects a taboo subject.

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Kathleen Ann Anderson link
2/20/2014 03:04:47 pm

Interesting article, Francene. One thing for certain is that they lose hope. That woman who was raped probably never would've killed herself if she'd been believed and hadn't been ridiculed. Yet, there is something in her past that made her so she wasn't strong enough to fight them & probably didn't have support. And yes, maybe some of it is her personality, so many things, like a perfect storm. It's very and painful what they go through and devastating for the ones they leave behind.

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