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Francene--Blog. Year 2014

People's changing treatment as we age.

5/22/2014

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I've taken a day to think about this subject and it is with regret that I feel I should share my experience. 
No matter how good you feel about yourself, that's not how others will see you.

I've always been confident, proud, strong and a person who gives others reassurance and understanding. But with the advance of age, I no longer give off my former vitality. When I'm sitting, I can hold a good conversation—it's only when I move that I let myself down.

The treatment I received from the doctor yesterday has left me feeling worthless. I'll tell you exactly what occurred (from my point of view) and you can be the judge.

When I entered Room 4 of the surgery, the doctor looked up and asked what seemed to be the trouble. I explained and she asked to examine me on the table. But I couldn't raise my leg. She kept repeating that I should get up. After more attempts of trying to lift the leg in question with both hands, I told her I couldn't. She waited. I suggested she move the stool to the other end of the table, but she told me it was fixed. After further failed attempts, she lifted my leg.

I almost sobbed with relief.


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After the examination, she confirmed my suspicion and dismissed the problem as of no consequence. She asked me if it was hurting. I said no, so she raised her eyebrows and told me to keep using the cream. When I told her I'd run out, she made no response but sat typing at her keyboard. I also requested a repeat of antiseptic cream and support stockings. After a bit of chatting about the possible outcome when the ointment had done it's job, she handed me a prescription for two items, not three, and told me to buy antiseptic cream over the counter. No response came from my admission of being short of money.

At the close of our discussion, I shuffled to the door, whereupon she noted my difficulty in walking. My pain nearly brought tears to my eyes, but her words were so cold.

As a person who is accustomed to the respect or admiration of those around me, the shock of losing the aforementioned regard wounds me.

The doctor looked tired, disinterested and uncaring. She probably saw me as unimportant and demanding. Perhaps if I had wealth, or a solid background of any worth like a renown writer or a famous celebrity, I'd receive better care. But would I be buying the attention if that was the case?

In the UK, the National Health Service was set up to provide health care from the cradle to the grave. But is this really happening today?

Doctors are all people, with strengths and weaknesses just like the rest of us. Another doctor might have handled the situation better. Staff working for the Nation Health are overworked, nurses are underpaid and the system is undergoing changes. However, doctors are among the most highly paid professionals in the country.

I don't think I'm unique. A similar loss of dignity must happen to most people over the age of 70.

Shame on society for treating mature people this way.


8 Comments
Karen Warren link
5/21/2014 06:13:20 pm

Sadly, this does not seem to be a unique story. People make judgements about other people based on their age, sex, race etc and treat them accordingly. The way older people are treated is particularly appalling, although I've seen instances of young people being treated unfairly as well.

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Francene Stanley
5/21/2014 08:47:24 pm

You're right, Karen. But when that person sees the change happen, it's a shock.

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Erzsebet link
5/21/2014 06:56:34 pm

Well, I know this is of no comforting news to you but as an interpreter I saw this treatment from doctors in London on several occasions. What is more they even humiliated the "patients" with words, smears and making faces - I thought this is because they look down on EU nationals...
It is really sad to see and hear about such treatments....

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Francene Stanley
5/21/2014 08:49:05 pm

Shocking, Erzsebet. How could doctors treat patients this way? Their job is to heal the sick and treat the complaint, not judge.

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Scott link
5/22/2014 12:04:14 am

Sounds like it is time to find a new doctor, one with a better bedside manner!

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Sophie Bowns link
5/22/2014 04:24:02 am

Francene, I'm so sorry that were treated like this.
Perhaps you should find a new doctor? :-(

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Sandi Bartlett
5/22/2014 10:55:50 pm

Francene, I am so sorry that you were treated like this. Unfortunately, it seems that society as a whole idolizes youth and does not respect and revere our older generation. I hope and pray that society will learn to respect our older folks because they have the life experience and the wisdom to share that our "younger folks" do not have. How could they? They haven't lived long enough to get that wisdom yet.

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Nichespur
5/25/2014 06:21:48 am

"I've always been confident, proud, strong and a person who gives others reassurance and understanding. But with the advance of age, I no longer give off my former vitality. When I'm sitting, I can hold a good conversation—it's only when I move that I let myself down."
Truer words I've never heard, now that I've finally come of age myself. I too "have always been" a strong and vital individual that had to learn how to have some consideration for those that could keep up with me, which first required I had some sense of their actual pain as opposed to what I then thought things were just supposed to be. Boy Have I learned the difference now that I have become physically disabled myself thanks in part to age. Our bodies just don't function like they once did and it is actually quite surprising. Your case is a classic example of how unhumane "we" can be when we fail to sympathize with others. I also appreciate the fact that you could sympathize with the problem of of all those expert doctors, who become so rationally blinded by their expertise, that they can't even see what the real problem is any more. Hope You can find another one though, if your health insurance allows you to look for one that is. Otherwise take pride in who you still are, which is not just a body but rather a very kind, caring and considerate human Be--ing trying to handle living in this form. And doing quite well at that it seems. Perhaps someday the doctors will even learn how to see that too! Namaste.

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