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Francene--Blog. Year 2014

Did your parents teach you well?

10/30/2014

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I don't want to concentrate on a depressing subject, but terrible things are happening in society, right here in the UK. One of them is child abduction. More than 3,000 children under the age of 18 have been reported missing in Greater Manchester this year.

Sexual exploitation of children is a normal occurrence on some streets and estates in that city. Children are often snatched while making their way home after school.

The alarming new report, released by the Home Secretary, suggests child sex abuse may have been fuelled by the youngster's increased exposure to explicit music videos and so-called "sexting", selfies and Instagram.

How could a sane so-called society allow such things to happen? I could cry for all the children who will never live a life we call normal.

One of my own adult daughters died nine years ago after treatment for leukaemia and consequent liver damage. With any death of a child, the parent is left with lingering guilt. Did they do enough? Did they raise their child with the skills to survive in the world? Here's a poem I wrote after receiving her last letter.


SHE WROTE TO ME



You taught me well, (she wrote to me)

Showed me how to be free

Could not have hoped for any more

Brought teaching to the fore.




You are my amazing mother

Not like any other

And although my path is troubled

I must walk on, hobbled.




Never forget it's my own path

Now I've strayed from the hearth

And I must tramp along the way

Although I'd love to stay.




Back then you showed me how to live -

A good life and to give

Even though you're treated badly

Not to give in, sadly.




And how to be an example

Your lead was so ample

Showing others how to hold tight

Though they would rather fight.




(And when I read her letter

Appeased and felt better

To know that I'd done a good job

Whilst trying not to sob.)

There must be many people who haven't been raised well, but have been strong enough or lucky enough to become a strong adult.

What has your child/parent experience been?

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Corinne link
10/29/2014 08:42:11 pm

I'm so sorry to hear about the loss of your daughter.

I had a normal childhood, my parents were good to me and I never really had any bad things happen to me or us as a family. I'm lucky compared to most.

Corinne x

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Jo Smith link
10/29/2014 08:54:40 pm

I can't fault my parents raising me. I raise my kids the same way. If i could be half the mother that mine is, my life will be a success xx

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maryam link
10/29/2014 08:58:08 pm

oh what a beautiful poem... and i am so sorry for yr loss.
Children are god's gift to mankind and tho one doesnt realise it earlier,being a mom of two young boys, i've now realised the immense responsibility of giving the right upbringing to one's children.

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kate loving shenk link
10/29/2014 08:59:55 pm

What a beautiful poem. Parenthood is all about letting go.

I had an upbringing which elicits good memories, for me. I am one of the fortunate ones. May I add, over 95% of the humans in this world are good. The media emphasizes the unsavory elements of society, and makes us all afraid of each other. Very sad, indeed.

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Elisabeth Halligan link
10/29/2014 10:21:10 pm

I am so sorry for your loss. I did not have a perfect childhood... and I know my children's childhood isn't perfect either... but I do strive to give them a good childhood and the tools they need to survive. My oldest is 22... the youngest of our eight is 9 months. I am very proud of my adult children (two of them now) and hope that I can continue to do right by the younger ones.

We moved out of AZ for much the same reason. Phoenix keeps trying to vie with Mexico City for the city with the highest kidnapping rate in the world... BUT from what I have heard of what is going on in the UK (we have family in London) things have gotten REALLY bad over there.I feel badly for those poor children.

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Sophie Bowns link
10/29/2014 11:05:12 pm

I was so moved by your post, Francene. I am sorry for your loss!

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Alexandria Gunn link
10/30/2014 12:10:52 am

That is such a beautiful poem. I'm sorry to hear about the loss of your daughter. I wouldn't say I had the "perfect" childhood, but I had a happy one. My parents did the best they could in the financial circumstances that they were in. They gave me their love and taught me well, and that's what I intend to give to my daughter.

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Lozelle link
10/30/2014 12:42:02 am

Your daughter's poem brings tear to my eyes. I am so sorry for your lose...

My childhood was amazing. My single mother was a great example of how to balance it all. She never missed a beat with my brother and I. She always said that we gave her strength.

My daily prayer is to be half of the lady and mom she was.

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Michelle Liew link
10/30/2014 01:29:14 am

Heartfelt and beautifully expressed. Too often, we do not appreciate our children until it is too late.

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Kathleen Ann Anderson link
10/31/2014 06:19:29 am

Francene so sorry for you lost your daughter. There is no greater pain then losing a child & we will carry the sadness with us for the rest of our lives. What a wonderful gift to have that letter from her.

As for child abduction it is going on all over the world. My sister runs a home to take these girls in. It is a fact that a lot of people in high places are part of it. I believe God is not going to put up with what's going on in the world much longer.

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