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Francene--Blog. Year 2014

The worry of impending dementia.

7/11/2014

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My husband and I did our weekly shop yesterday. At 75 years, he writes the shopping list and the menus. Now he's retired, cooking is his hobby. After he drives me to our local supermarket, he lifts out my rollator. While shopping, his mind is fully engrossed on his task, list in hand. I stroll along behind, happy to be able to walk on a flat surface and watch society interact around me. I should mention that we live half way up a steep hill, so the change is welcome.

My husband seemed distracted yesterday though, and went through his pockets a few times, saying that everything was jumbled up together. I smiled and nodded, although aware that something was different.

Once we got home, he staggered a bit. He's not well, and he's worried about the results of recent tests, which have left him with pain. However, during the evening, he admitted he'd confused the time of month. When you're on a pension, like us, you have to stretch your money over four weeks, the last of which is tight. This was the forth week. He'd thought it was the first—the time of plenty.

He kept holding his head and repeating how he'd lost a week of his life. He mentioned his fear of dementia. I must admit, I've noticed several changes in his mental ability and behavior over several months.

So, what can we do?

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Records show one in three people over 65 end their lives with the condition we know of as dementia. Recent news announced that a new blood test could diagnose the disease earlier or put your mind at rest. There are about 800,000 people in the UK living with dementia, and many more are affected by it—their friends, family members, or carers.

Dementia is like brain failure—a series of signs and symptoms, including changes to memory, emotional state and ability to manage. Alzheimer's disease, the most common type, is not dementia in itself. It causes dementia symptoms.

With dementia, one of the main symptoms is the loss of memory. The person forgets things, becomes disorientated, or might not know where they are. There could also be changes in personality. People may become either more apathetic or more uninhibited. The crucial thing is the change.

Your doctor knows your medical history and can tell if you have other treatments or conditions that could cause dementia symptoms like memory loss. A proportion of people who are worried can be reassured that their symptoms are not dementia, and can be treated.

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Many of you will have friends and family members who are affected by dementia.

What can you do to help the people you know or encounter? Firstly, don't be afraid. Continue to speak to them and give support. So many lose friends and become isolated. Give them time to carry our tasks. Be patient.

In the UK, it is easy and free to become a Dementia Friend at dementiafriends.org.uk Armed with knowledge, you can make a real difference in the society around you.

Worrying times ahead for me. But then, as we age, a decline in physical and mental ability is to be expected. At the end of my morning meditation, I ask to be given the strength to support my husband for the rest of our lives together. He has never flinched from supporting me with my walking disability.

Do you know someone with dementia?


9 Comments
rachel
7/10/2014 06:53:34 pm

It is a very sad illness, I work in mental health and we also have people with Dementia who come to us, it breaks my heart because no one should have to have this illness x

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lisa prince link
7/10/2014 07:13:48 pm

What a fabulous post thankyou for sharing the awareness of dementia , its a scary thought but we all grow old in different ways , i often say becasue im so forgetful at only 30 this is what i will end up having x

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Raspal Seni link
7/10/2014 07:31:41 pm

Hi Francene,

Coming from today's UBC chain. I hadn't heard of this disease yet and don't know what it's called here in India. I'm sure it's here too.

Two things will help, whatever the disease someone has. One is regular meditation in the mornings and controlling our waste thoughts.

And this is something you can do - giving healing energy and positive vibes to your husband. Any disease is the result of negative energy, so positive energy surely heals.

Thanks for sharing and I hope he feels good soon.

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Zee link
7/10/2014 07:46:39 pm

My gran had dementia, and what makes me sad is that we had no clue what is was. Everybody else took it as old age signs. I can only imagine what she went through.

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Lisa link
7/10/2014 07:54:00 pm

Thankfully Francene here in the UK we are now talking about dementia more, which is a positive in so many respects. This is a very hard condition to live with for both the person who has it, but even more so for the family and the main carer who looks after them. I am a live-in carer and have stayed with ladies with varying stages of dementia. It is indeed very sad for them, mainly in the early stages where they are wondering what is happening with their mind.

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Sophie Bowns link
7/10/2014 08:25:35 pm

I work in a residential home and a fair few of our residents have Dementia (in different stages) it's an incredibly sad illness, especially if you knew the person before it developed.
Having said that, it effects people in different ways. Some might become quite aggressive, while others are very gentle. We have a resident with Alzheimers who sings "Annie's song" all the time and seems content in her own world.

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Eng Tinkham link
7/10/2014 10:57:15 pm

I got a 70+ Grandfather and his doing fine and I am very thankful, I hope scientist will find a cure about this illness

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Hollie link
7/11/2014 03:44:19 am

Hi Francene, thank you for this very open post. I wish you and your husband all the best in your journey together. x

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Alana link
7/11/2014 11:38:28 am

I've known my next door neighbor for about 28 years. He has dementia and sadly, he is one of the individuals who has lost all inhibitions. A couple of weeks ago he was sitting outside with his home health aide nearby, and I went over to talk to him. Sad to say, I will hesitate to ever do that again. He didn't deserve that end of life situation; he was a wonderful man. I think dementia is worse than cancer. I will wish the best for you and your husband both.

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