www.theguardian.com Recent psychology experiments suggest we should talk to ourselves in second person.
Nearly everyone uses internal dialogue or monologue. It's a continuous conversation you have with yourself about everything that's going on around you. You may not have thought of this, but your dialogue actually provokes a physical reaction.
During our day to day affairs, we often give ourselves little pep talks if there is something stressful ahead like asking for a raise in pay, approaching an awkward topic in conversation, trying to stick to a budget, or not giving in to temptation during a diet.
You create reactions inside yourself in response to the world. By choosing how to perceive yourself, you can either work toward success or failure. For example, if you believe you are competent and special, you will aim for that truth. If you think you are incompetent and worthless, you will never rise.
In a study published in the European Journal of Social Psychology, scientists tested whether the use of 'I' or 'you' worked better for their participants when facing a difficult situation. As an example, some used, 'You can get through this' and others thought, 'I can get through this'.
Nearly everyone uses internal dialogue or monologue. It's a continuous conversation you have with yourself about everything that's going on around you. You may not have thought of this, but your dialogue actually provokes a physical reaction.
During our day to day affairs, we often give ourselves little pep talks if there is something stressful ahead like asking for a raise in pay, approaching an awkward topic in conversation, trying to stick to a budget, or not giving in to temptation during a diet.
You create reactions inside yourself in response to the world. By choosing how to perceive yourself, you can either work toward success or failure. For example, if you believe you are competent and special, you will aim for that truth. If you think you are incompetent and worthless, you will never rise.
In a study published in the European Journal of Social Psychology, scientists tested whether the use of 'I' or 'you' worked better for their participants when facing a difficult situation. As an example, some used, 'You can get through this' and others thought, 'I can get through this'.
en.wikipedia.org Those who spoke to themselves using “you” experienced less shame and didn't reflect on how it went as much as those who used “I.” And the judges thought those who had spoken to themselves as “you” were less nervous, and more confident and persuasive. Apparently, when we think of ourselves as another person, it allows us to give ourselves objective, helpful feedback.
Perhaps we associate the early persuasions and encouragement used by parents and teachers to spur better behavior. So 'You can do it' will help you get things done more than 'I can do it'. Read a more detailed article from Forbes.
My husband and I received some bad news yesterday. His blood tests reveal the dreaded 'C' word and he'll be receiving treatment as a matter of urgency. Our neighbor shook his fist yesterday and said, “We've got to be strong”.
This is the best time to maintain a positive attitude.
Do you face a challenge? Go on, you can do it.
Perhaps we associate the early persuasions and encouragement used by parents and teachers to spur better behavior. So 'You can do it' will help you get things done more than 'I can do it'. Read a more detailed article from Forbes.
My husband and I received some bad news yesterday. His blood tests reveal the dreaded 'C' word and he'll be receiving treatment as a matter of urgency. Our neighbor shook his fist yesterday and said, “We've got to be strong”.
This is the best time to maintain a positive attitude.
Do you face a challenge? Go on, you can do it.
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